AskMen.com: How to get your girlfriend to abort
July 10, 2009 at 11:04 am | In Abortion | Leave a CommentTags: askmen.com, selfish
What a helpful article!
Update: seems like they were shamed into removing it
Update 2: once online, always online
An unplanned and unwanted pregnancy can dramatically affect an otherwise loving long-term relationship. Some men rejoice, but others simply aren’t ready to be fathers. If they discussed the possibility and specifics at the start of the relationship, he may hope she’s going to stick to the original plan and terminate the pregnancy. And she might — but for some women, getting pregnant can start clocks ticking and make them suddenly want to be mothers, despite previous agreements.
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Tell her what you think
When you’re ready to share your opinion, you’ll want to use a calm, steady tone. You’ll also want to take care with your word choice; pregnant women tend to feel like they’re carrying someone, as opposed to something, even if she is just a month or so pregnant. You can’t just talk about having an abortion the same way you’d talk about having a cavity filled. Sensitivity is key. Toss words like “it” around too many times, and she’s going to start feeling like she needs to defend “it” from you. If you want her to really listen to you, paraphrase her own word usage.
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Stand by your decision
If you’ve followed all of these steps and your woman decides to have the baby anyway, this does not mean you’re required to get married or move in together. You’ll probably want to provide for your child regardless, but if you’ve been clear about your intentions from the start, you are not obligated to contribute beyond what your conscience and the law expects of you. This was her decision, not yours, and the bulk of the responsibility is now hers.
Wow. Just… wow.
Jill Stanek offers commentary:
The third person in the relationship is brushed aside as a mere “issue of an unwanted pregnancy” which encourages men to treat the situation as if it is only themselves and their partner that need consideration: “Will you have to sell your Harley and get a station wagon?” asks the author.
Oh, what a terrible thought! Yes, clearly ending the life of your unborn child is more preferable!
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The only redeeming factor to the article is it suggests if mothers insist on allowing their preborn children to live, men should feel free to change their minds and embrace their future roles as fathers.
Well, good thing we have abortion so that we can support a woman when a guy knocks her up but would prefer to keep his Harley.
Apparently, painting late term abortion providers as heroes is “common ground” on abortion
July 9, 2009 at 9:48 am | In Abortion | Leave a CommentTags: cecily kellogg, common ground, late-term abortions, reproductive health reality check, thomas peters
Thomas Peters dismantles the Reproductive Health Reality Check so-called “common ground” forum on abortion:
My patience and sincere attempt to be understanding and open to RHRC’s common ground forum is about out.
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Tiller, [Cecily Kellogg] claims “was committed to his work.” Why? She says, “because he believed ‘abortion is a matter of survival for women.’” I’d like to find out how many of his abortions saved women’s lives. I know every one of his abortions killed a child. But that’s not fair for me to say, apparently. That’s not acceptable common ground. And yet it is acceptable for Kellogg to claim that Tiller “saved” lives.
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Kellogg’s last sentence is especially deceptive and indeed, manipulative:“My doctor knew the procedure and was willing to perform it; something that has already become rare and will be rarer still if doctors have to put their lives on the line to perform this life saving medical procedure. If it’s you or your daughter, will you be so lucky?”
Quite honestly: how dare she say that. She paints abortionists as heroes who “put their lives on the line to perform this live saving medical procedure.” However, medical situations in which the woman’s life can only be saved by a late-term abortion are incredibly rare. They represent a failure in medicine. The answer to “medically necessary” abortions is to make them medically unnecessary. That is the challenge. Her manipulative “if it’s you or your daughter, will you be so lucky?” is about as honest as claiming we need to kill all the sharks in the world because one of them might take a bite out of you or your daughter.
Sharks aside, I’m curious how anyone’s daughter would be “lucky” with late-term abortion, considering that Kellogg “chose to have her son half-birthed, and have his brains vacuumed out.” That doesn’t sound lucky to me. A daughter would be lucky to avoid that fate, not to be complicit in it. And it’s kind of hard to pay that favour forward…
Anyways, Peters himself admits that he might not break things down “perfectly,” but he does a pretty good job — read the entire thing here.
Google restricts ads for abortion services in certain countries
July 8, 2009 at 10:25 am | In Abortion | 1 CommentTags: adwords, google
To be honest, I don’t envy Google’s position as a middleman in the abortion debate. They landed in some hot water a bit over a year ago when they refused some pro-life ads targeted on abortion keywords, but it seems like that was resolved quite amicably in the fall, allowing religious associations to place ads in a “factual and campaigning way.”
Now, Feministing is up in arms over a recent discovery that Google’s AdWords policy disallows ads for abortion services in some countries. The list of countries is puzzling, as it includes countries with a wide range of abortion laws, but the claims are a bit extreme. The author is “pretty disturbed by Google’s ability to withhold information about reproductive health services in these countries without justification or accountability.” Last I checked, Google isn’t “withholding” information. You can still, uh, search. These are restrictions on sponsored results.
Still, it would be interesting to see how they selected the list of countries (Germany, Poland, Hong Kong, Taiwan, Singapore, Malaysia, Philippines, Indonesia, Argentina, Brazil, Mexico, Peru, France, Italy and Spain). Google just said they “conducted the review and made the change to ensure our policy was fair, up-to-date, consistent with local laws and codes of practice.” It seems obvious that Google wouldn’t accept ads for abortion services in countries where it is illegal, like Brazil, but I’m not sure what kind of advertising restrictions exist on abortion services in countries like France.
Man pulls gun on pro-lifer at Planned Parenthood — media doesn’t seem to care
July 7, 2009 at 10:47 am | In Abortion | 2 CommentsTags: crime, phoenix, planned parenthood, violence
When violence against pro-choicers occurs, it’s “domestic terrorism.” When someone pulls a gun on a pro-lifer at Planned Parenthood, the mainstream media barely notices.
Imagine if a pro-lifer were to pull a gun on a pro-abort outside an abortion mill.
Yet I can only find ONE mainstream news story on the opposite sort of incident that happened at a Phoenix, AZ, Planned Parenthood 5 days ago. And note no suspect name was provided, no mug shot….
[...] Phoenix police Lt. Larry T. Jacobs said the man had just dropped his girlfriend off at the Planned Parenthood near Seventh and Campbell avenues. As he was leaving, one of the women outside handed him a pamphlet.
That’s when the suspect pulled a gun on the woman, pointed it at her for a few seconds and then drove off.
H/t Patrice Egging
DeVeber Institute highlights University of Toronto campus pregnancy resources
July 6, 2009 at 11:47 am | In Abortion | Leave a CommentTags: crisis pregnancy, day care, deveber, education, uoft
Genevieve Bonomi, an intern at the deVeber Institue for Bioethics and Social Research, has praised UofT’s campus pregnancy resources:
Throughout Canada, thousands of young people attend University who are aged 19 to 24. This group is also the largest age cohort of women having abortions. The deVeber Institute is researching the resources available to pregnant and parenting students on university campuses in order to better understand some of the reasons that may be behind this statistical flux.
Preliminary results reveal that the majority of schools in our country are lacking services. Often the resources are not available, or are not made known to students who need them. Of all Canadian universities, the University of Toronto was the only university to offer all of the following:
- Pregnancy counselling for adoption and birth options as well as for struggling parents
- On campus housing for families attending university, with priority to single parents
- Numerous on-campus day care facilities as well as child co-ops with student discounts and subsidies available
- A babysitting referral service
- Loans, bursaries and scholarships specifically for parenting students which are made clear to students
- Academic leave for a semester
- Private designated areas for women to breast feed on campus
- Parenting students are given priority in work study positions
- On campus food and clothing bank for students
- Residence services that help students find affordable off campus housing
- Wheelchair and stroller accessible buildings
- Flexible class times as well as evening and weekend classes/ distance classes via internet to make courses easy for parenting students
[Full disclosure: I've been doing some website work for the deVeber Institute, but I'm not involved with any of the research they're doing.]
It’s great that UofT has these resources available, but I think there are still major challenges. First of all, I’ve heard complaints about day care facilities at the Mississauga/Scarborough campuses before, not from reputable sources (and certainly not ones I can cite), but it would be nice to know how resources differ from campus to campus. Second, it’s important and necessary for these resources to be available, but the next challenge is making sure that students know they are available. If a women still feels like she has to choose between her unborn child and her education, then we aren’t doing our job to support her.
It sounds like the deVeber Institute’s research is just beginning here. I look forward to seeing the results at the end of the summer. We’re lucky to have these resources at UofT — let’s make sure students know they are available!
Right to die or right to live?
July 3, 2009 at 8:25 am | In Euthanasia | Leave a CommentTags: human rights, right to life
Cristina Alarcon, a pharmacist at Hollyburn Medicine Centre in West Vancouver, has an article in the National Post: Right to Die? How about right to live:
Could the way we treat our most vulnerable be a sign of the times, a measure of societal devolution? Rather than seeking life-giving solutions to societal problems, have we not been seeking death as a panacea — death for the unwanted child through abortion, and now death via assisted suicide for the handicapped sibling or the ailing parent, even for the depressed teenager?
Read the whole thing.
Against idea bundling in the pro-life movement: PLAGAL on Prolife Unity radio
July 2, 2009 at 10:33 am | In Abortion | 4 CommentsTags: idea bundling, march for life, notre dame, plagal, usa
Cecilia Brown, President of the Pro-Life Alliance of Gays and Lesbians, was on Prolife Unity radio a few weeks back (via PLAGAL’s blog). I wasn’t able to give the interview my full attention, but it seems like there was some controversy at the American March for Life as PLAGAL members were charged with protesting without a permit, after March for Life organizers asked them to put down their banner (with the rainbow flag, I believe).
I don’t know the particulars of the situation, but I personally agree most with the commentator who likened this to the way that Notre Dame dealt with protesters: both March for Life and Notre Dame were within their legal rights to crack down as they did, but neither decision was wise.
This reminds me of a recent Search Engine podcast by TVO’s Jesse Brown on the case against idea bundling with network neutrality. (Yes, very different issue, but hear me out!)
The basic principle of “network neutrality” is that there is no discrimination between packets on a network; much like our power outlets don’t discriminate against our electronic devices (it doesn’t cost more per voltage to use one device versus another, and performance isn’t degraded for certain appliances), an Internet Service Provider shouldn’t be slowing down your connection based on what website you’re viewing — all parties are given equal treatment on a neutral network. Without getting too deep into the technical issues, there are reasons why those of all political colours would support such a measure, ranging from freedom of speech arguments to fair competition arguments from companies that aren’t Bell/Rogers.
Until the Liberals recently expressed support for network neutrality, the issue has largely been associated with the left (and the NDP) in Canada. Also, at a recent town hall meeting in Toronto, one participant demanded to know why he was receiving emails about getting Al Jazeera into Canada after subscribing to the SaveOurNet.ca mailing list.
Jesse Brown argued that net neutrality proponents should set up a big tent, so that people from all political backgrounds could feel comfortable supporting net neutrality measures. Liberals, conservatives, libertarians, etc. don’t need to agree on the environment or the status of Al Jazeera in order to agree that network neutrality is a good idea. Why should other, separate issues be bundled together, especially in a way that alienates those from a different political background and paints the issue as far to one side of the political spectrum?
I feel like there’s a similar idea bundling happening here in the March for Life’s hostility toward PLAGAL. Trust me, I probably don’t agree with them on a lot of other things, but if we can agree that abortion is morally wrong and that it’s not the compassionate response to a woman with an unwanted pregnancy, why can’t we work together to oppose it?
I welcome a group like PLAGAL that breaks the stereotype of pro-lifers as old, white, Christian men. It makes it all the more difficult for pro-choicers to ignore us, or pretend that only extremists or non-scientific people oppose abortion. I actually get a kick out of thinking about how pro-choice organizations react to groups like PLAGAL. We witnessed some drama at UofT a few years back, when someone used the LGBTOUT mailing list to encourage members to protest a UTSFL event, and a prominent member of the LGBT community reamed them out for assuming all LGBTOUT members were pro-choice (as he was ardently pro-life).
As long as PLAGAL is participating in events like this for the same reason as other pro-life groups — to take a stand against abortion — and they’re not “hijacking” the event to promote another issue (i.e. idea bundling themselves — which it doesn’t seem like they’re doing), then I think we should encourage and be grateful for their participation.
What do you think?
Thousands of Indian women protest sex-selection abortion
June 30, 2009 at 9:17 am | In Abortion | 1 CommentTags: india, protest, sex selection
ProWomanProLife has the story and the disheartening numbers. Patricia Egan summarizes things well:
I think that most women, pro-choice or not, realize that there is something wrong with aborting a baby just because it’s a girl. But if sex-selection abortion is wrong, because it undermines the value and equality of girls, isn’t eugenic abortion just as wrong, as it undermines the value and equality of the disabled? Is it worse to have an abortion because you’re expected to bear sons for your husband and family or because this just isn’t the right time to have a baby?
This must be a tricky path for the abortion advocate to navigate. It must be hard to argue that abortion is a purely personal matter when it can result in more than 5 million missing Indian baby girls.
We’ve discussed sex-selection and abortion before, and how these sorts of issues are tough for pro-choicers.
Life-size models of unborn babies
June 29, 2009 at 8:15 am | In Abortion | Leave a CommentTags: clump of cells, models
Via ProWomanProLife:

Pregnant women are being given the chance to hold life-size models of their unborn babies, thanks to an invention that converts data from ultrasound and MRI scans.
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The technology is being trialled at a clinic in Rio de Janeiro. “It’s amazing to see the faces of the mothers. They can see the full scale of their baby, really understand the size of it,” said Dr Lopes.
Yep, just a clump of cells.
Jon Stewart and Mike Huckabee talk about abortion
June 28, 2009 at 9:37 am | In Abortion | 1 CommentTags: jon stewart, mike huckabee
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